If you're reading this we can pick up where we left off. Now before I get up on her, lemme get the REST of the truth out
about him and I.
I too, was wrong, for he was still married also.Oh yea, I know. He married her at a very young age, but claimed it was over.
Oh he and I were still wrong, I knew better. But once again...ACCEPTANCE. I had alot of it at that time, especially for him.
Not to mention they hated each other and I figured even if they are still getting down, at least they play it off well enough
to not get in the way of us. Plus the divorce came shortly after, she went on to start a family and so forth.
AND...I still had not broken off my relationship with MY ex boyfriend. Nothing sexual, but we kept in contact. And that
was wrong. So don't think I'm judging this woman. I'm scandalous myself.
I had to say this again I am NOT judging this woman. I just analyze what I see...and what I saw was scandelous.
I won't go into why her and her husband were already a part of my ex's circle. But when I entered the picture it was two adult
couples hanging out. All four of us, plus friends, would attend bars, parties, and chill. I dug her in the beginning, dug her
hard. I was attracted to her, not just sexually but the whole picture. A young, attractive, mother and wife, holding down a
great career and maintaining from what I saw a perfect marriage (her husband was fine I aint gone lie). But there were things
in the dark that were being revealed very early into my relationship.
My ex, first, assured me she was a ho. Period. He may have been lying, he may have just been joking, but after awhile it became
a lil joke between the 2 of us. Our comfortability as two adult couples led to deep conversations, including those of sexual
activities; group sex, who was REALLY sleeping with who...hell within the first 4 months of the relationship I had been
approached sexually by both her and the husband.
...now why did I agree to a 3some w/her? I'll tell you why. Cuz I wanted to. 2nd, I knew he wanted to also and like I said,
I go hard for mine. So it happened.
I later find out, the worst way, that they been fucking before, during, and she confirmed most likely after, the event.
He called and told me str8 up, they been fucking, and aint shit I can do about it. After calling him back and going ham he
apologized, but his reason was for my infidelity. I took that.
Lata down the line him and I get into this checking each other phone thing. I really never did it till I found out he was
cheating, and found a couple texts telling her he loved her.OOOOkay. I approached him with it, he said it aint like that, I
made sure to throw it in his face every opportunity I had, which probably made him feel good about continuing his relation-
ship w/her. I won't lie, in a relationship I'm a handful and a half.
Unfortunately, we gotta get back to the topic, her. I eventually got over the whole thing, but that feeling never left. The feeling that it really wasn't over between them. So, w/my bad self starting becoming a lil flirt. I talked shit, kissed a chick (yea that was bad) and had a co-worker who I regularly talked to. Only once did a situation arise when I almost sexually cheated on him, but I really didn't. At this point I wish I COULD say I did, it would feel good.
But I'm being honest, and that's the truth.
Now the present, after the run in with her outside his house she approached me, again, with a sexual offer. I decided this time, I'm either gone take it, or use it to my benefit. My ultimate goal was to get out of this situation as quickly as possible. What was holding me back? I STILL loved him.
So I pretended to be interested, sending back texts, calling her, telling her it's on. All the while I'm sending the messages
to my friends, getting help w/what to tell her, I turned it into a game. See I knew he'd check her phone eventually, and at
that point I was tired. I wanted to be the one everyone's mad at. I was sick of being the one w/feelings hurt.
So, as planned, he texted me back. I told him the TRUTH. I told him exactly what I was doing, even who was in on it, and my purpose. He texted back, w/apologies, and I too, apologized. So I'm like cool, he says he gon hit me back lata.
Bout 3 in the morning I get a call. Every1 who knows me knows I keep loud, obnoxious musical ringtones. I look at the phone,
it's him. So I call back a sec lata, thinkin it must be important. No answer. So instantly I knew he was on some sneakingaround cuz she there bull, or it was her. I texted back, saying man up, WHOEVER it is, cuz I'm up now and I'm ready to settlethis shit.
What she lets me know, well, I'd rather not elaborate. I think at this point I've made my point to all readers. When you find
yourself in a fucked up situation and stay because of LOVE, make sure that same love is strong enough to hold you. I to this day love that man, yea I know...it's been so long how the hell can you still love him? And my answer is, you ain't really been in love before. Whether negative or positive, a person can spin your life on or off its axis. This man was special,
DESPISE his flaws. He knows and ONLY he knows he was the most wonderful person in the world to me. I heard thru the grapevine him and her are together, happy, and she finalized or is finalizing the divorce. I have been and continue pray for them, me and anyone else finding themselves in such a pickle.
And just like he has forgiven me, I too have forgiven him. I also owe him my life, for his actions has taught me things you'll never find in a book...
Hmm...things you'll never find in a book. Sounds like a good book title, huh?
Stay tuned...
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