Melly Mel...He's Just Doin Him

Are we REALLY surprised at Mel Gibson's "behavior"? Lol I'm not. NO I didn't EXPECT him to go on a violent, racial rampage, but I'm not surprised at his obvious opinions of other nationalities.
I'm not big on Mel Gibson's movies but the last one I remember with him having a good relationship with a Black person is Lethal Weapon. PLEASE correct me if there's been one since then.
AND I'm sure Mel has Black friends, may even have Black ppl working with and for him, but where in his acting contract does it say he has to actually like them?
This can go into celebrities' responsibility to respect everyone cuz it's everyone who makes them a celebrity. RIGHT?
Wrong. It's the people who fucking like him back. The people who really give a flying fuck about this man's opinion of their background. The people who were so affected they thought twice about keeping that copy of "Braveheart" in their dvd collection. THE PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTARILY SAT THROUGH "WHAT WOMEN WANT" (I was forced to watch it with my aunt, at the theater...I was 14! That's just not right!)
Mel Gibson is an entertainer. He makes money to entertain, in the form of acting. ACTING. He's not paid to be a good person, he's paid to ACT like one. Just like ol boy from Seinfeld, Michael sumthin, he's paid to make people laugh...including the Black people who proudly watched that show. Just cuz he knows how to make a nigga laugh doesn't mean he gotta like em ey?
I don't understand why people are so angry. Hell if anything, they should be mad that this is actually news, headliners at that! Mel Gibson's racism or sexism or whatever-ism doesn't really affect me as a woman, or a Black person, or a Black woman.
I only get offended when I expect something totally different. And I can't expect anything from something I don't care about. So if a+b=c....
Gibson's rants just let me know something I didn't know before about him, he thinks Black people roll in packs and all Jews are responsible for wars. That's not racism, that fool is just stupid! And I feel that being mad at someone for being stupid is also a prejudice. So don't point fingers ppl.
Let's take this as an example of the backfire of the 1st amendment. Free speech as long as it doesn't offend anyone racially, demographically, sexually, and even mentally. Therefore in order to practice your right to open opinions you have to be sensitive thus educated enough to know that everything you say over a couple beers with your friends isn't something to be repeated publicly.
But Mel didn't say it publicly.
He said it to his girlfriend model chick. Over the phone. So now it's obvious this is how this man really thinks and feels, and what better way to reveal that than anger?
I think we're all racist in one way or another, sexist, and sacriligious even. But we all have our reasons when ultimately we can blame ourselves, our environment, and those we choose to keep around us. Cuz this isn't the first time Mel has expressed his feelings, I'm sure of it, and it won't be the last. But when you see him on film, you're gonna want to assume he's not that person. WHY?
Cuz he's such a great actor. He has awards and stuff.
By the way, there's still an oil leak goin on, if anyone still cares.

Tired Black Relationships (part 1?)

Whattup wurms, hope you had a happy 4th, and hopefully a better 5th. Well if you checked the page last week I posted a couple pieces about the struggles from the perspective of a Black man and Black woman. Though the literature expressed the "strong Black woman" or "strong Black man" as dead, it displayed all the hardships and dehumanization endured. They reminded me of "Diary of a Tired Black Man." My mother recommended it and I was very hesitant to watch simply cuz I thought it was another Tyler Perry stage play.
Note: My opinions of Tyler Perry are mine and mine alone and had no influence on my perspective of this blog's topic. Though I feel he has a tendency to use the Black church as a catalyst for making money from terribly written, terribly acted, cliche-plotted scripts which only translates "COONERY" to the masses, his intentions most likely lies in the hopes that Black men and women will take deeper looks at themselves, therefore having a desire to improve their relationships with each other.
Or he just tryna get paid. Money in the bank bitches!

"Diary" begins with the following clip. The actual movie, scripted wise, is about 45 minutes to an hour. It's the meat in between that makes the sandwich, as the director takes the clips to the streets and gets real opinions from the public, mostly Black. I would highly suggest watching this, it's still on On Demand or you can buy it (support indie filmmakers).


TREATED!! Okay I really REALLy wanna tell you the rest, but it'll kill it. HOWEVER I will say that the movie is about the events leading up to the scene you just saw. There's alot going on...the bitchy wife, the no-man-havin judgmental friends, the white girlfriend in the black man's car...it's definitely a conversation piece. But like I said, it's the EVENTS LEADING UP that matters, and trust the public's opinion fits right into the story, AND the point of it.

In the Black community, not only are broken relationships common, but the reasons are too. From women being molested by close ones during childhood to men being raised only knowing women as bitches and ho's, we've heard em all. The problem is breaking the cycle. Of course we're all affected by our environments, our parents, our self confidence, but as adults we have a responsibility to maintain healthy relationships to continue the love and life cycle. A.K.A. the Black Family.

Pride, insecurity, mistrust, ignorance, dishonesty, and impatience are all descriptions of too many relationships. And when both Black men and women have their own reasons for expressing both it's hard to come to a medium.

I could go on forever on this topic, but I hope all of you are able to watch the movie. Though it's from the perspective of a man, women can definitely relate, at least the ones willing to admit their own faults lol.

Don't marry someone you won't be able to stand in the end. Don't insult or belittle the one you once promised love to. Hell don't do alot shit you know is bogus simply cuz you've already given yourself to this person right? The effort and faith you put into a relationship is the same that you put into yourself. And just like any project, hairstyle, job, etc you try sometimes it doesn't work out. The strength comes in the ability to keep the same peace and love you came in with, cuz if you leave it behind with a bad relationship there will be none left for the next person who comes along. And you know what they say, you'll never know when the ONE comes along.

I'm kinda sleepy, but trust this is one to be continued ppl. Stay happy and loving, grab your lover and get freaky. Just keep it going, and if it's just not working, accept that.
Trust me, this is advice given from someone who SHOULD'VE used it and NOW knows, not someone who always knew. Best believe that's the best lesson you never wanna learn lol. Take care ya'll, and lemme know what you think.

Always Urlee,
DUB

Tron Legacy Trailer!!

Where my REAL nerds @? It's time...it's so time.
Tron Legacy recently released its trailer and I'm so hyped I need a drug test. Check it out, and for those who have never seen/heard of Tron, here's my take in 30 seconds:
An arcade employee tries to hack into his former job's computer system (ENCOM) in order to prove his video game ideas were stolen so his ex-chick uses her really smart machine to transform him into software data so he can go into the system but oh no! they find out and he needs help from Tron, a security program to help him defeat the game and hopefully escape or at least being able to prove that his ideas were jacked.
Mmkay?? Here's the trailer.


I got to remember to exhale! Aaaand it's gonna be in 3D. Made by Disney...well at least we know no money will be wasted on effects! Geeked!

"The Strong Black Man Is Dead"

The strong Black man is dead...While struggling with reality with being a human instead of a myth, the strong Black man passed away. Doctors say he died of natural causes, but those who knew him know he died from being silent when he should've been speaking, calm when he should've been raging, but he did not want to inconvenience anyone so he kept his mouth shut.
He died form an overdose of other people clinging to him when he didn't even have the energy for himself. He died form loving women who didn't love themselves and could only offer him a crippled reflection. he died from not having the resources to arise his children and for not being able to do a complete job of it. He died from the lies his grandfather told his father and his father told him about life, women, and racism He died from being discriminated against as a child and having to take that truth everywhere, he went everyday of his life, exchanging the humiliation for guilt and anger.
He died form being called boy by someone who hated him and he allowed it to break his spirit because he could not defend himself. He died from asphyxiation, coughing up blood from secrets he kept trying to burn away instead of allowing himself to feel the pain he was entitled to feel. He died from being responsible, because he was the last rung on the ladder and there was no one under him he could dump on. The strong Black man is dead. He died from the hangman's tree; he died from sweltering hot sun while working in the southern cotton fields, and the northern streets of drugs.
He died from being a father at 15 and a grandfather at 30 and an ancestor at 45. he died from being dragged down and sat upon by urn-evolved men posing as brothers. He died from pretending the life he was living was a Kodak moment instead of a 20th century, post slavery nightmare! He died tolerating Ms. Pitiful, just to have a woman around the house. He died from lack of trust; he died from not knowing how to assist his brother when his brother needed help. He died from giving up his dream of wanting to be a singer, a dancer, a business man or some significant other.
He died from lies of omission because he didn't want to bring the black man down. he died form race memories of being beaten, dragged, snatched, and sold, whipped and worked to death. He died from tributes from his counterparts who should have been matching his efforts instead of showering him with dead words and empty songs. He died from myths that would allow him to show weakness without being chastised by the lazy and hazy. He died from hiding his real feelings until they became hard and bitter enough to invade his mind and heart like a nasty cancer. He died from not always knowing how to love and respect his women.
The strong Black man is dead. He died from being called a Nigger...He died from verbal, he died from being called a punk because he was assertive. He died form never being enough of what a woman wanted, or being too much fro the woman he wanted. he died from being too Black and died again for not being Black enough. He died from castration every time someone thought of him as an animal or treated him like the dirt on the soles of a pair of shoes. He died from being misinformed about his mind, his body, and extent of his royal capabilities. He died from being locked up because someone thought they had probable cause to lock him up. He died from loneliness because no one would listen to him. He died of shock in courtrooms where he stood, alone, knowing he was innocent, but who the hell cared? He died in allies, shabby hotel rooms, and bathrooms with his veins busting open with self hatred and neglect.
He died in his mind, fighting life for the truth, while his body was carted always and stashed in a human warehouse for spiritually mutilated. Sometimes when he refused to dies, when he just refused to give in, he was killed by lethal images of a Cadillac, drugs, and dead presidents. Sometimes, he was stomped to death by his own people, executed by hi-tech ignorance while he walked away from his family, his community, and the race on his back! The strong Black man is dead! Or is he?

I hope you all enjoyed reading both parts of this piece. The similarity of both symbolizes the fact that although Black men and women have different issues with each other, we face the same issues from everyone else. I think the author was trying to say,
"Black men and Black women are strongest TOGETHER. Cuz apart our problems are parallel but unidentifiable. Apart, we are DEAD."

--Oh, and if anyone happens to know the author, please lemme know. He/she deserves kudos. Please stay tuned for my thoughts and hopefully open discussion!

"The Strong Black Woman Is Dead"

The following piece was given to me by a good friend, unfortunately it was an emailed forward with no author. So thank you Anonymous, for "The Strong Black Woman Is Dead."

While struggling with the reality of being a human instead of a myth, the strong Black woman passed away. Medical sources say she died of natural causes, but those who knew her know she died from being silent when she should have been screaming, smiling when she should have been raging, from being sick and not wanting anyone to know because her pain might inconvenience them. She died from an overdose of other people clinging to her when she didn't even have energy for herself.
She died from loving men who didn't love themselves and coudl only offer her a crippled reflection. She died from raising childrem alone. She died from the lies her grandmother told her mother and her mother told her about life, men, and racism. She died from being sexually abused as a child and having to take that truth everywhere she went, everyday of her life, exchanging the humiliation for guilt and back again.
She died from asphyxiation, from secrets she kept trying to burn away instead of allowing herself the kind of nervous breakdown she was entitled to, but only white girls could afford. She died from being responsible, because she was the last rung on the ladder and there was no one under her she could dump on. The strong Black woman is dead.
She died from being dragged down and sat upon by un-evolved women posing as sisters and friends. She died from tolerating Mr.Pitiful, just to have a man around the house. She died from sacrificing herself for everybody and everything when what she really wanted to do was be a singer, a dancer, or some magnificent other. She died from lies of omission because she didn't want to bring the black man down.
She died from myths that would not allow her to show weakness without being chastised by the lazy and hazy. She died from hiding her real feelings until they became hard and bitter enough to invade her womb and breasts like angry tumors. She died from never being enough of what men wanted, or being too much for the men she wanted. She died from being too black and died again for not being black enough.
She died from being misinformed about her mind, her body and the extent of her royal capabilities. She died from knees pressed too close together because respect was never part of the foreplay that was being shoved at her. And sometimes when she refused to die, when she just refused to give in she was killed by the lethal images of blonde hair, blue eyes, and flat butts, being rejected by the O.J.'s, the Quincy's, the Cuba's and the Kobe's.
Sometimes, she was stomped to death by racism and sexism, executed by hi-tech ignorance while she carried the family in her belly, the community on her head, and the race on her back!
The strong Black woman is dead! Or is she?

I'd like to open the blog for discussion, only after I publish "The Strong Black Man Is Dead" tomorrow. Oh yea brothas, I got you too. In the meantime, I urge you to watch the docu-film "Diary of a Tired Black Man." Excellent film exploring the REAL issues of Black women from the perspective of a decent Black man who got tired of getting beaten down by his wife. Trust, it's bout to get deep.

Peace wurms!

To all my wurms....

This is dedicated to you. "Is it" by Cee-Lo. Check out this hot mixtape Stray Bullets. Listen to the lyrics, then let me know...is it still good? I know I been on bullshit but can the strength of DUB keep you in the nest? Lol really tho...
I'm back.
"...you...don't...have...to worry."