Shut up.
That's right, shut your mouth.
Before you go all ham, bet u muttering right now, "No this bitch not talkin bout Chris Brown need forgiveness, stupid as hell gone not write shit for almost a month then come back talkin that shit."
Lol I know u aint goin in like that, but it was funny in my head.
ANYWAY,photos and videos of the 2009 Bobby & Whitney show that they are indeed back together. I choose not to believe alot of celeb gossip, it's simply entertainment. But even a blind man can see this woman does not want to give that man up. And for that, she deserves forgiveness.
No,she's not asking for it,but she needs to. She needs to be right up there w/Chris Brown hittin every show from Ellen to Tyra apologizing for her behavior. You know why? Cuz just like Chris Brown set a bad example for young men, so did she for young women. She went back.
That's right.She went back, and for that I feel she's a terrible role model for young women. I think her going from interview to interviewer talking about how she's stronger and how women shouldn't allow a man to treat them like that blah blah blah then sit her silly ass up there and get back w/him. What message is that sending out?
I'm not judging Chris Brown, we all know what he did was dead wrong. But as footage is revealed of her involving herself w/him shows she's willing to take that chance of getting knocked out again. It's that oh so familiar feeling of hoping the person you're with changes for you, and though many do, it's probably not a good idea to get back w/the mofo till you're sure a person has decided to change.
Everyday we hear of domestic violence cases. And of course the men are the first to get the finger pointed at. But if you look closer into alot of cases (which you can check statistics of @ your local county police dept) many domestic violence cases are results of 2ND & 3RD TIME offenses that finally got charges.
Meaning,alot of the time in these cases men go to jail for hitting the women that they know will bail them out and take them back...ALOT of the time. I feel a man, like any person, will do as much as a person lets him. And if there's one species that pays attention to the way men respond it's YOUNG WOMEN. Rihanna took a strong stand against domestic abuse when speaking out on her relationship and her dangerously deep involvement. But then she took a weak step getting back w/dude not only so soon, but under the radar. Well, trying to be.
I feel Rihanna is setting a direct example of "doing anything for love." Though she's beautiful, she obviously has a deep self esteem problem. Any woman does who decides to return to a man who went so hard he needed to bite fingers. WTF man?
And I know,I experienced abuse in a relationship. It takes a deeply clouded mindset to accept being abused, let alone stay in a situation that's so extreme violence is even necessary.
I was fucked up, what can I say.
And I think the same of Rihanna, and that's fine, she's still young. We all be fucked up some of the time. Even if Chris never lays a hand on her again, which I pray for, young girls will take this example as a "one more chance" ticket. He beat her ass in public, meaning he's definitely done it in private, she cried and "healed," took him back and the media serves it up and them "working it out." Come on. I believe in forgiving but not forgetting. And in many cases, that one more chance has turned into women's one last chance at life.
Chris and Rihanna may stay together living happily ever after, but that's not how it always ends up. These are things I feel should be highlighted in these interviews.
We need to get to the root of these young women's insecurities allowing them to have abusive men in their lives, thus creating more abusive men. And don't sleep, women are abusing men at an alarming rate also. This problem starts with a person's thinking and ends with their self confidence level.
It's time we stop waiting for women to get abused to help them heal and empower women. The most inspiring stories are that of women getting over or escaping a man and THEN reaching her goal. I'm sick of it cuz once again, that's sort of my story.
There was a time a woman fought for freedom, for her beauty, for her ideas and right to learn. Nowadays we are independent only cuz we doin it "without a man."
So hopefully this gives you a new insight to women's important role in their own abuse by a man. Hopefully Rihanna learns that God never puts more on you than you can bear, so there's gotta be an escape route from the bullshit somewhere.
And if you or anyone you know is experiencing domestic abuse contact
National Domestic Violence Hotline
http://www.ndvh.org (800)799-SAFE (7233)
Or you can hit me up. Real talk drop me a line. It's hard taking that first step; I got you.
