Coalition for Tender Thug Reform

It's time. Oh it's waaaaay past due. I've been working hard at this, and I'm proud to cut the ribbon on my new organization, CTTR, or the Coalition for Tender Thug Reform. Ladies, ,this one's for you.
In the midst of recession, poverty, war, murder, and bad hip hop we tend to forget that there are small problems on the rise. I'm not talking about gas prices or the next popular Black hairstyle, I'm talking about Tender Thugs. They're all around us people, and if you're not careful you could come into direct contact w/one or even worse, YOU could be one, and not know it.
Alot of women, all colors, can't help it. They love thugs. The gangsta life, the hood mentality, the whole attitude...yes even the biggest square can't deny a man with a rough edge and "don't give a fuck" swag can be sexy as all hell. Aint nuttin wrong w/that! Hey, I've had some "thug love" and I aint even gone hate! BUT, before you go rollin thru the hood for your next prince charming know what you pickin up. Cuz that may not be a real thug. That could be a Tender Thug.
Like every problem the first step to solution is knowledge. And it is the goal of CTTR to identify the problem and spread this knowledge.
So what is a Tender Thug? To be honest it's really hard to tell, coincidently that mystery is the key to being a Tender Thug. You don't know one right off bat, no, they don't wear t-shirts saying it and they don't get special parking spaces so you have to pay attention. First off, a real thug AIN'T TENDER. Not soft, not emotional, and not trying to "have a talk." So the title itself lets you know you should look for men who seem hard, but you have a gut feeling that this nigga here wouldn't hurt a grape in a fruit fight. They got the tattoos, the clothes, the language, the swag (I guess), even a couple "hood stories" to convince you further. You gotta dig deep! Find the tenderness within!

Does he complain...ALOT?
Does he claim to "run these streets" but just runs his mouth?
Does he constantly get robbed, beat up, or simply humiliated in public?
Where ARE these hoes that won't get off his nuts?
Can you recognize the game he claims to "have on lock?"
Does he take his wardrobe waaaaay too seriously in an effort to protect his "swag"?
and I gotta ask but..
When you argue, do you find yourself wondering if he's gay?

If you answered yes to 2 or more of these questions, you may just be dealing with a TT. You see, a real thug may complain, but whatever the problem trust it gets solved alot faster with silence and action than bitchin and moanin! Real thugs aint got time to surf or swag, long as they jeans and tee fresh they good. They don't need to discuss their ho population, the same way they keeping you is the same way they probably keeping 10 otha chicks lol. He not callin a girl 20 times a day, checkin her phone, trippin on her myspace and twitter comments. He stackin bread and duckin law all the while claimin M.O.B. (money over bitches come on stay w/me). He doesn't have a 9 to 5, doesn't file taxes, doesn't have a myspace page, and doesn't have a favorite reality show...
If you don't get the picture by now, meaning if you still questioning the "thugness" of your beloved dboy, he aint no thug. He may not even be a Tender Thug, but he aint no thug I know that. And that's the beauty. Every man doesn't wanna be a real thug and every woman doesnt want one.
We allow rap culture and media depict being a thug as glamorous and exciting. Women, admit it, alot of us like a man who can toss us like salad in the bedroom and act like nothing phases him. The "thug" represents the part of a man ALL women want: strength, courage, security, and determination. But fellas, don't think you have to be a thug for women to want you. Bring out your "thug" when necessary, but if you regularly mow your lawn and got good credit, just accept your place. Be a good man. Be tough, don't take just anybody's shit, but don't front. If you ain't a thug you don't wanna be, cuz us ladies love the image but along w/it comes police, arrests, court dates, and many lonely nights.
If you weren't raised in "the hood," didn't have to dodge bullets and gangs, didn't have to sell drugs, didn't have to watch police sit on corners, and never got arrested BE HAPPY. There's nothing wrong with you. AND don't think just cuz you live in the hood that makes you a thug either. IT. DOESN'T.
So you see, a Tender Thug only becomes a problem when the need for a REAL THUG arises. A strong man can become a punk bitch when trying to impersonate a thug. It's just a bad look. And some women allow it...pumpin these brothas' heads up making them feel like the hood star...HE AINT SHIT! Build him up on the level he deserves. Replace "oh boy you so gangsta" with "Oooh boy you got a savings account!"
You know what I mean (savings account? I need to stop smoking)
And fellas, just be yourselves. Your sexy, strong, chocolate (or vanilla, whatever you are), humorous, protective, intelligent selves. Make ur persepective and ur penis speak louder than your image. Cuz the sexiest thing in a man is one who's secure enough to be REAL.

Please respond and report any Tender Thugs you may see. We can now identify the problem. Let's solve it. Tender Thug counseling and seminars available, and soon to come is my blog on Tender Thug attire. Nigga you knew those were leggings when you bought him! Fitted jeans...my ASS!!

The CTTR is an independent, non profit organization based in Chicago, IL with the sole purpose of treating and healing the disease that is Tender Thug. All contacts can be made through DUB, http://byrdwurd.blogspot.com