Tired Black Relationships (part 1?)

Whattup wurms, hope you had a happy 4th, and hopefully a better 5th. Well if you checked the page last week I posted a couple pieces about the struggles from the perspective of a Black man and Black woman. Though the literature expressed the "strong Black woman" or "strong Black man" as dead, it displayed all the hardships and dehumanization endured. They reminded me of "Diary of a Tired Black Man." My mother recommended it and I was very hesitant to watch simply cuz I thought it was another Tyler Perry stage play.
Note: My opinions of Tyler Perry are mine and mine alone and had no influence on my perspective of this blog's topic. Though I feel he has a tendency to use the Black church as a catalyst for making money from terribly written, terribly acted, cliche-plotted scripts which only translates "COONERY" to the masses, his intentions most likely lies in the hopes that Black men and women will take deeper looks at themselves, therefore having a desire to improve their relationships with each other.
Or he just tryna get paid. Money in the bank bitches!

"Diary" begins with the following clip. The actual movie, scripted wise, is about 45 minutes to an hour. It's the meat in between that makes the sandwich, as the director takes the clips to the streets and gets real opinions from the public, mostly Black. I would highly suggest watching this, it's still on On Demand or you can buy it (support indie filmmakers).


TREATED!! Okay I really REALLy wanna tell you the rest, but it'll kill it. HOWEVER I will say that the movie is about the events leading up to the scene you just saw. There's alot going on...the bitchy wife, the no-man-havin judgmental friends, the white girlfriend in the black man's car...it's definitely a conversation piece. But like I said, it's the EVENTS LEADING UP that matters, and trust the public's opinion fits right into the story, AND the point of it.

In the Black community, not only are broken relationships common, but the reasons are too. From women being molested by close ones during childhood to men being raised only knowing women as bitches and ho's, we've heard em all. The problem is breaking the cycle. Of course we're all affected by our environments, our parents, our self confidence, but as adults we have a responsibility to maintain healthy relationships to continue the love and life cycle. A.K.A. the Black Family.

Pride, insecurity, mistrust, ignorance, dishonesty, and impatience are all descriptions of too many relationships. And when both Black men and women have their own reasons for expressing both it's hard to come to a medium.

I could go on forever on this topic, but I hope all of you are able to watch the movie. Though it's from the perspective of a man, women can definitely relate, at least the ones willing to admit their own faults lol.

Don't marry someone you won't be able to stand in the end. Don't insult or belittle the one you once promised love to. Hell don't do alot shit you know is bogus simply cuz you've already given yourself to this person right? The effort and faith you put into a relationship is the same that you put into yourself. And just like any project, hairstyle, job, etc you try sometimes it doesn't work out. The strength comes in the ability to keep the same peace and love you came in with, cuz if you leave it behind with a bad relationship there will be none left for the next person who comes along. And you know what they say, you'll never know when the ONE comes along.

I'm kinda sleepy, but trust this is one to be continued ppl. Stay happy and loving, grab your lover and get freaky. Just keep it going, and if it's just not working, accept that.
Trust me, this is advice given from someone who SHOULD'VE used it and NOW knows, not someone who always knew. Best believe that's the best lesson you never wanna learn lol. Take care ya'll, and lemme know what you think.

Always Urlee,
DUB